HESITATION / PANIC
Next time you notice you are holding something, whether it’s someone’s hand, a steering wheel, a tennis racket, a musical instrument or a pen, try to see how much more loosely you can grip it without feeling out of touch with it (or whoever’s connected to it). The chances are you will begin to feel more in touch as soon as you start to hold on more loosely. Practice this often. Do life with the loosest possible grip.
HESITATION / PANIC
Whatever you’re doing, imagine what you want to happen, don’t get caught up in trying to perform one particular stage of a task. This is harder than it sounds. Becoming distracted, ‘taking your eye off the ball’, is NOT what I mean.
I can best explain what I mean using some examples from cricket (the sport, not the insect).
Shane Warne was a fabulous bowler and he spoke about imagining, as he bowled, what shot he wanted the batsman to play. He didn’t focus on a spot on the pitch where he wanted the ball to land, as many coaches suggest you should do. He didn’t try to get ‘out of his head’, as other coaches might say. He held the ball very loosely (‘if I feel relaxed doing it, then I’ll be able to do what I want to do down that end’ [the end where the batter stood anxiously facing him]).
If you have a natural hesitation built into your ways of connecting you will tend to do life in segments. That’s like driving a car and having it stall again and again. Thinking imaginatively joins life up so that it flows.