Not all narcissism is pathological. Sometimes it is a good thing to be around (uplifting, motivating, generous, exciting) and other times it’s a nightmare (possessive, coercive, secretive, blind to the need of others). This article puts it rather well:
Someone I know mentioned a piece of advice she used to give students when she was teaching: say something in a class and you’ll remember it better.
We tend to remember things better if we try to recall them as close as possible to where we committed them to memory. What my friend was suggesting was very important. It suggested a way of marking a moment of remembering; of how to remember that you’ve remembered something.
It’s easy for things to ‘wash over’ you. If you let that happen, even if you then go on to make a note of something later, the chances are you’ll remember it less well.
Feeling Stuck?
When you feel stuck you believe that nothing will change. Bad things repeat and the future looks bleak. Other people tell you life will improve but you don’t believe them. You can’t, however much you wish you could.
These pages are about how to get unstuck by doing things differently. Being stuck governs what you believe. Painful, contrary, invalidating feelings rule your mind and lead you to do all kinds of thing to try and get unstuck. (more...)