HESITATION / PANIC

Control what you can control, which isn’t much, really. Even if you feel you have something under control you’ll soon see how that might go wrong. Staying in control needs a certain way of thinking: you can’t, but up to a point you need to be able to try … and even if you find yourself able to ‘let it go’, as they say, you need to be able to think and do the ‘letting go’ thing without getting stuck in the process.

Feeling in control is being in control. And feeling in control comes from being able to do decide ‘I will do this’ without delay. Not actually doing it, but being able to do it.

What makes life really difficult are those hesitations, confusions and potential changes of mind that stop you from picking up on something quickly enough to act on it. These moments shape your life: ones happening now; those chances of something different emerging.

What can you do? Forget about the past for a moment and look at what affects you in the here and now, which jams the machine, if you like. Which leaves you uncomfortably hovering. Anyone can do this. All you need is a reliable other person  who can tell you what they see and feel stops you in your tracks.

If you’re to feel in control you need to be able to act without hesitation. Staying in control is feeling in control.