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Be Somebody Else: the Art of Getting Unstuck
When your life feels stuck you need to improvise. It’s the best way of adapting to an uncompromising world in which we all have to get enough of what we need. Being stuck is to lose your sense of equilibrium. Life feels as if it’s going nowhere; as though it’s...
Gratitude
For some reason 'gratitude' has featured a great deal in the conversations people have brought to me. How can you feel it and express it? Twelve-step people will know why that question is so important. You can't artificially express gratitude. It seems to naturally...
Anticipation
Try cultivating a sense of anticipation, rather than expectation. If you expect something it's probably going to be easier to describe. You might have a strong sense of what you think is going to happen, where, when and so on. Anticipation is a sense of remaining...
Autistic Relief
If you grow up around someone autistic you may find yourself being described as, or invited to think about yourself as autistic. Maybe you are. Perhaps, in the way you do life there are the signs, like footprints in the sand, of how you grew used to living with...
TETRENSION, a TETRIS DREAM
I’m immersed in relentlessly raining blocks: shapes falling without a care for me. This is my Tetris-dream – life as it is, indifferent to me. The pieces arrive like the complications of every moment I live, every block adding to a pile that might burn, a bonfire of...
Everything
The way that you do things is everything. If Ryan Gosling had played Ted and Keanu Reeves had played Ken I'd have loved Barbie and wouldn't still be wishing I could watch Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure again for the first time. Such is life.
Unconditional Love
Fire Man (©Mark Neville, 2024) Claim or proclaim unconditional love and, all of a sudden, love becomes conceptual. When something is conceptual it becomes conditional. Whatever I do or you do we will always love each other. Concepts are the sneak-thieves of truth,...
Finding an Ally
In situations where you believe you will be treated badly look for an ally. Ideally that person will be someone who might be less easy for your abuser to do down. Someone who might be hard for that person to describe and denigrate in terms they would apply to you. If...
Urgent Advice
I haven't been posting in a while because of other projects that are underway. However, that will soon change and normal service will be resumed. In the meantime here are two thoughts I have been reminded of while working recently. If you have been abused begin each...
Signal Effect
Following Dreams
It's useful to know why something is troubling. If I feel too hot I might need to move out of the sun. If I have a headache I might need a glass of water. These kinds of problem are different from psychological ones like why do I behave like this? Why did he do that...