Loren ipsum intro….
Feeling Unheard
If you feel unheard maybe you are being treated as if you are not really there - more as a figment of someone else's imagination, their plans: their reality.
Mindfulness, in case you forgot …
Mindfulness involves understanding how to live at your most ready, when life is at its most precarious. It involves recognising injustice and doing what you can about it, navigating danger, and reading how power operates. It’s how to survive oppression, economic...
Confirmation
People sometimes talk about affirmations. Forget those, they are a pipe-dream. You need confirmations: bullseyes on a target, not a pep talk. Real things … which maybe don’t feel so real. Every day find something directly connected to you that is working out. Even if...
Being Right: righteousness, a division of the mind and the body politic
One of the hardest things about living with, working with, or staying attached to someone with a severe dependency problem is reckoning with the gap between their rational self and their utterly wrecked self. I’ve heard so many people in early recovery explain, with...
A Plague of Mediocrity
Somewhere in the horrible fog of antagonism and bitterness engulfing disagreement over whether or not EDI (Equality, Diversity and Inclusion) is a good thing lies a well-hidden truth. Business, politics, sport, music, literature, art ... the situation is as it always...
Why worry? Why hang around?
Worrying is necessary. Every group needs someone who knows how to worry, someone prone to anxiety who tends to experience life as if its continually undecided, on the verge of veering off-track (or worse). Avoidance - that too. All groups need somebody who's a studied...
Realisation
Awareness needs to be mobile: realisation. Static awareness of a fact is barely helpful and soon becomes unhelpful. Awareness is realised through further moments of realisation. A flowing sense of awareness is a sense of something changing.
Gratitude
For some reason 'gratitude' has featured a great deal in the conversations people have brought to me. How can you feel it and express it? Twelve-step people will know why that question is so important. You can't artificially express gratitude. It seems to naturally...
Anticipation
Try cultivating a sense of anticipation, rather than expectation. If you expect something it's probably going to be easier to describe. You might have a strong sense of what you think is going to happen, where, when and so on. Anticipation is a sense of remaining...
Autistic Relief
If you grow up around someone autistic you may find yourself being described as, or invited to think about yourself as autistic. Maybe you are. Perhaps, in the way you do life there are the signs, like footprints in the sand, of how you grew used to living with...